The luckiest people are those who were blessed with good teachers. Find one

All aspects of society work best when men become more responsible. You can tell how prosperous a society is by how busy its men are.

The highest kind of knowledge is not “know-how” but “no-how”. To be able to do without a specific method. The highest forms of creativity express no-how - from artists, to sportsmen, to musicians. Find a field of endeavor that enables your no-how.

“Make friends with people who want the best for you.” ― 

“Your goal in life is to be able to say on the day before you die that you have fully become yourself.” - 

Are your thoughts building you or tearing you down?

A-B-C: How to become lucky, and making friends

 What is to give light must endure burning. Go through the fire now, so you can bring light to yourself and others later. Nowhere is too dark when you carry around your own sunshine 

 Never dilute the things you love with the expectations for what you should love. 

 Do you know what the best decision makers have in common? They are very decisive. They open themselves up to the possibility of being wrong, but they in fact, never stop making decisions because they may be wrong.


"This is the real secret of life—to be completely engaged with what you are doing in the here and now. And instead of calling it work, realize it is play." - 

Alan Watts “On the Taboo Against Knowing Who You Are"

 "Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakens." 

Carl Jung, "Memories, Dreams, Reflections"

In what areas of your life are you running away from decision making?

 A-B-C: Do this to easily make great decisions, and the secret of a happy life

Success is intoxicating, yet you need to be sober to maintain it. Most successful people eventually fail. Nothing fails like success.

It is really easy to become someone who reads. Read books that are relevant to what you want to achieve now and reading will never seem boring.

The luckiest of men are those who were blessed with good teachers. Find good teachers.

"The question to ask when you feel pride is this: What am I missing right now that a more humble person might see?What am I avoiding or running from, with my boastfulness, panic and embellishments? It is better to ask and answer these questions now that the stakes are low, than it will be later.” - 

 on how to unlock a bigger, fuller life:"Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage."

 - The Diary of Anais Nin, Volume 3: 1939-1944

1 question for you to consider this week:

If you could be doing ANYTHING with your life right now, what would it be?

A-B-C: How to unlock a bigger life, and the habit you need to maintain success

The patience you need for big things is developed by your patience with the little things.

 Constantly asking yourself “what-if” about your past is a waste of time; asking “what-if” about your future is tremendously useful. 

When you forgive others, they may not notice, but you will heal. Forgiveness is not something you do for others, it is a gift to ourselves.


 "The less confident you are, the more serious you have to act." – 

"Motivation comes and goes. If you want to do something consistently, then don't pick a level of difficulty that requires great motivation. Make it easy enough and simple enough that you'll do it even when you don't feel very motivated." - 

James Clear, Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones

Am I willing to look foolish today so I can learn something that will make me better tomorrow?

A-B-C: The question you should ask yourself, and demystifying motivation

1. Say what you’re going to do, and go ahead and do it. No excuses. The biggest stumbling block between who you are today and the most successful version of yourself is your psychology; It is how you think about yourself.

2. The only relationship between work and chatter is that one kills the other.

3. Each time you reach out to people, bring them a blessing; then they’ll be happy to see you when you bring them a problem.

“Don’t get caught up trying to be the star of the show. Some of us are called to be partners, and to align with others on the same journey as ours”


2.  “Be honest with yourself about what your handicaps are, and create systems that compensate for your weaknesses. I batch create my content on days I feel motivated because I know I can be lazy.”

What systems can you create in your life to help you overcome your weaknesses?

A-B-C: How to stop making excuses, and overcoming our weaknesses

1.  Every human is born with gifts that are unique to them. There are at least two ways most people lose their gifts:

b. by making decisions based on fear. It is important to go back to who you were before the world told you who to be.

2. In most cases, you don't have to go through a lived experience if you learn from the lived experiences of those around you. 

It allows you to build mental models that churn out as much learning as your own lived experiences while keeping the pain away. In what area of your life could you use some lived experience today?

3. One way to be a great storyteller? Be ruthlessly present in your day to day moments.

1.  "Genuine love comes from knowledge, not from a sense of duty or guilt” - Alan Watts

And I have seen boys with their arms torn out, and their legs ripped off.

But there is nothing like an amputated spirit. There is no prosthetic for that” - Al Pacino, Scent of a Woman


What is one thing you wish you quit a long time ago?

A-B-C: How to be a great storyteller, and how to genuinely love

1.  Be your authentic self; don’t ever look at your life from the perspective of others. They are outside. 

2.  Being a multipotentialite doesn't mean you are "all over the place". It's a gift that you should appreciate and harness to make it work for you. Find your sweet spot, find your intersection, and use your talents to further your life's mission.Your multiple interests can serve various missions as long as you have capacity - and you can build capacity, if it's important enough to you.

3.  Your dreams are valid, they are not unattainable fantasies. Your dreams are the whispers of your spirit, urging you to step outside your comfort zone, take risks, and create a life that aligns with your passion and purpose.

2 interesting quotes from books & articles

1. “Practice isn’t the thing you do once you’re good. It’s the thing you do that makes you good.” - 

2. “You can become King by interpreting the dreams of others”

Story written by Moses, The Bible Genesis 41: 14 - 33

1 question for you to consider this week from Adaora

If you were given a chance with no limitation, what one thing would you do today?

A-B-C: How to stop comparison, and becoming your authentic self - Guest Feature with Adaora "Lumina" Mbelu

1. Do not be careless. Do not take opportunities and access that you have for granted. Do not be careless over your principles and convictions. 

2. Never dilute what you actually love with expectations for what you should love.

3. Here’s how to become a more original thinker - and the smartest person in the room:

After you read for a little bit, stop, write down what you’ve studied in your own words.

While writing down, you’re thinking about it, you integrate it and it gives you other ideas. That’s the way I study.

It’s marvellous, just wonderful, the relationship between writing and thinking 

. The one who cannot see the wealth that was given to them at birth. The one who cannot see the wealth that they have accumulated in their relationships and experiences.

Solving your problem of poverty is an achievable goal and can be fixed by earning and saving money. No one could seriously claim otherwise.

The issue is when we think these activities can address spiritual poverty.“
- 


2. “Most of us will be seized with fear if our bodies went numb, and would do everything to heal from it, yet we take no interest at all in the numbing of our souls” - 

When last did you feel loved by the person you want to love you the most?

A-B-C: How to be a better thinker and seeing differently

You are more likely to succeed when you no longer desperately need to succeed. Your thirst to win deprives you of power

Limit the number of desires you have at any given moment. Only then do you become truly free.

For the rest of 2023, be someone who finishes what you start

"Each time you reach out to people, bring them a blessing. That way, they will be happy to see you when you bring them a problem" 

– Kevin Kelly, Excellent Advice for Living

"No valid plans for the future can be made by those who have no capacity for living now" 

Whose validation are you trying to win at this point in your  life? Is it worth it?

A-B-C: How to finish what you start, and becoming successful

1.  Two things that have helped me scale myself

: competitive debating and starting a company. The similarity between both is that it carves out an entirely new domain that expedites learning, exposure and tolerance for risk. You're playing on the edge of your potential, and your ambition spreads like a fractal stain. Who you become is directly commensurate to the effort you put in.

One way to succeed in life is to continue to find domains that give us the unfair opportunity to scale ourselves in a very expedited manner, and play in them.

2.  The most practical way to evolve yourself is to take the posture of someone who has been set apart for greater works: in your thoughts, words and actions. If others work 8 hours, work for 9 - even if it’s just for the fun of it.

3.  Here’s how to have great conversation: The classical art of conversation is to avoid any imbalance, people need to be equal at least for the purpose of conversation otherwise it fails. That’s why you’d rather have dinner with your friends than your professor. People are only willing to be social friends if they don't try to outsmart one another. 

1. “When young people who want to help mankind come to me asking “what should I do? I want to reduce poverty, save the world” and similar noble aspirations at the macro level, my suggestion is:

start a business. Put yourself on the line, start a business.

Yes, take risk, and if you get rich (which is optional), spend your money generously on others” - 

2. “You come home, make some coffee/tea, sit down in your armchair, and all around there is silence.

Everyone decides for themselves whether that is loneliness or freedom.” - Christina Ixchel

Do you want to get wealthy - or is there something else you prefer, the avoidance of poverty?

A-B-C: How to have great conversation, and taking risk to reduce poverty.

When building relationships, quality always beats quantity. The most successful people know that you do not need to build professional relationships with 10,000 people. Find 10 people who can connect you to 10,000 people and build very deep relationships with them. 

If you want to grow exponentially, make the hard decisions you keep putting off.

When you are a very young man, women tend to have leverage over you in relationships. As you get older, you begin to reclaim leverage. An important test of masculine strength is whether you handle the process of reclaiming leverage with grace, attention and responsibility.

"No problem is too small or too trivial if we can really do something about it.


You say you are a nameless man. You are not that to your wife or to your child. You are not nameless to me. Do not remain nameless to yourself - it is too sad a way to be.

Know yourself in your world and evaluate yourself fairly, not in terms of the naive ideals of your own youth, nor in terms of what you erroneously imagine your teacher’s ideals are.


– “Perfectly Reasonable Deviations from the Beaten Track: The Letters of Richard P. Feynman”

2.   “Your potential, the absolute best you’re capable of—that’s the metric to measure yourself against. Winning is not enough. People can get lucky and win. People can be assholes and win. Anyone can win. But not everyone is the best possible version of themselves.” ― 

When last were you truly excited about your life?

A-B-C: How to grow quicker than peers, and building relationships

Be careful with people who don’t have anything to lose when you have something to lose.

Most aspects of personal anxiety can be avoided by simply having a personality: things you’re deeply interested in, people you genuinely admire & imitate, and a schedule for engaging in extracurricular activities.

Keep your identity small and flexible. Throw away ”this is who I am”.

“It's a dangerous thing to mistake speaking without thought for speaking the truth.” -  

"Glass Onion: A Knives Out Mystery” Detective Benoit Blanc.

“Have almost too much self-belief. Self-belief is immensely powerful. The most successful people I know believe in themselves almost to the point of delusion.”

What is one thing you could do this week to make it better than last week?

A-B-C: How to be successful, and getting rid of anxiety

Willingness to learn is important, but willingness to act on what you learn is critical.

 A world without discomfort is utopia. But it is also stagnant. A world perfectly fair in some dimensions would be horribly unfair in others. A utopia has no problems to solve, but therefore no opportunities either.

 How do the most successful entrepreneurs survive their early failures? They don't view their failures as failures – they view these experiences as feedback, and a prelude to future success. This applies to any field of human endeavor. Fail fast, so you don't fail at the same things over and over again.

 “The more desire I have for something to work out a certain way, the less likely I am to see the truth.” ― 

Eric Jorgenson, The Almanack of Naval Ravikant: A Guide to Wealth and Happiness

“If you betray yourself, if you say untrue things, if you act out a lie, you weaken your character.” ― 

Jordan B. Peterson, 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos

1 question for you to consider this week.

What is one act you can undertake today to make your week 1% better?

 A-B-C: Why you refuse to act, and dealing with failure

1.  The price you need to pay to be the people you admire is often one you wouldn’t be able to foot the bill for.

2.  Sometimes, seemingly positive character traits are symptoms of internal crises. 

 because you do not know how to say no to strangers - often at the expense of your own self and family. Being “nice” in this case is a bug, not a feature. Audit your life to eliminate bugs that may pass off as features.

3. It takes more time and energy to build a bad business than a good business. Same thing applies to every valuable endeavor in life: relationships, jobs, marriages, social projects, teams, etc.

 When things are not working out for you, revisit the quality of what you’re building - you will likely discover the problem.

1. “One of the most destructive forces is unused creative power. When someone has a creative gift and out of laziness or for some other reason doesn’t use it, that psychic energy turns into sheer poison. That’s why we often diagnose neuroses and psychotic diseases as not-lived higher possibilities“ - 

Marie-Louise von Franz, Shadow and Evil in Fairytales


2. “Somebody who thinks they’re nothing and don’t matter because they’re not doing something for a few days is depriving themselves of stillness, yes—but they are also closing themselves off from a higher plane of performance that comes out of it.” - 

If you continue to grow at your current pace, where will you be in 10 years? Is that the life you want?

A-B-C: How to avoid mental illness; and imagining your life in 10 years.

When choosing who to work with, the most important question to ask yourself is “

, keep looking, you have not found your person. This applies to most human relationships.

All our anxiety comes from worrying about the future. We worry about the future when we are not sure about the present. We are not sure about the present because we’re spending time doing something we are uninspired about. When you work on something you are deeply inspired by, you do not worry about the results, only your input matters. The most successful people understand this.

When you are anxious about your to-do list, take comfort in your “have done” list.

1.  "The poorest people are the children of those who were once very rich. It is hard for people to give them help as they never believe that all of that wealth can vanish in a generation.

I have seen it vanish in a year. Real estate won't always pay bills and may incur bills.


Cash flow is very different from dead assets.

The richest people I know generate cash every second. They don't wait to sell things or get rent to pay for their lifestyle.” - 



2.  “There may be some jobs where you have to work diligently for years at things you hate before you get to the good part, but this is not how great work happens. Great work happens by focusing consistently on something you're genuinely interested in. When you pause to take stock, you're surprised how far you've come. The reason we're surprised is that we underestimate the cumulative effect of work. Writing a page a day doesn't sound like much, but if you do it every day you'll write a book a year. That's the key: consistency. People who do great things don't get a lot done every day. They get something done, rather than nothing." - 

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